Mommies 4 Mommies: What We Wish We'd Known
Recurrent Miscarriages
There is always that fear lurking at the back of your mind the minute you learn of your next pregnancy (if you have had more than one miscarriage, then this for many will be familiar) - mixed feelings often set in, as you find yourself swinging from one side of the pendulum to the other. Happiness and joy at the prospect of carrying to full-term a healthy baby, versus the cramping pains that plague your mind and body the minute they kick in, knowing that the inevitable has you in it's clutches, and with it that deep sense of despair as your heart sinks deep within your being.
It is like a game that is being played again, a kind of Russian roulette, and the roller-coaster of emotions that emerge during the first few weeks usually means that 'relaxing' in spite of everything seems to be virtually impossible, And often, if you are slightly relaxing, then you may feel as though you are engaged in some sort of denial. We are all different of course, but these are the many common denominators that I have come across both in myself and other mothers-that-tried-to-be.
There are some solutions and often help is needed, especially a little monitoring support that can only act as a kind of anchor at a time where otherwise you may overwhelm yourself with needless worry, anxiety, moments of terror and feelings of hopelessness and failure. There IS help, not all around us during this time, as I have to say unless you have suffered miscarriage/s or infant loss, I am afraid that nobody outside this tragic circle is really qualified to comment at length. This does not mean that people that we know cannot help at all, there are many compassionate people around, sure there are - but what it means is that the sufferer and her partner are really the ones that have LOST their baby that they have created together, and they are the ones who have suffered the loss directly - they must be respected, loved and allowed to be.
Please feel free to contact me for a chat. I have suffered 3 losses, I am a Miscarriage counsellor, a natural health practitioner and author of a miscarriage book. Against all the odds I have had a baby (at 44) and I worked diligently not only through my emotions and that of other mothers that suffered losses, but have created a pre-conceptual health programme, and work with commemorating the loss of your tiny innocent and beautiful baby.
It is like a game that is being played again, a kind of Russian roulette, and the roller-coaster of emotions that emerge during the first few weeks usually means that 'relaxing' in spite of everything seems to be virtually impossible, And often, if you are slightly relaxing, then you may feel as though you are engaged in some sort of denial. We are all different of course, but these are the many common denominators that I have come across both in myself and other mothers-that-tried-to-be.
There are some solutions and often help is needed, especially a little monitoring support that can only act as a kind of anchor at a time where otherwise you may overwhelm yourself with needless worry, anxiety, moments of terror and feelings of hopelessness and failure. There IS help, not all around us during this time, as I have to say unless you have suffered miscarriage/s or infant loss, I am afraid that nobody outside this tragic circle is really qualified to comment at length. This does not mean that people that we know cannot help at all, there are many compassionate people around, sure there are - but what it means is that the sufferer and her partner are really the ones that have LOST their baby that they have created together, and they are the ones who have suffered the loss directly - they must be respected, loved and allowed to be.
Please feel free to contact me for a chat. I have suffered 3 losses, I am a Miscarriage counsellor, a natural health practitioner and author of a miscarriage book. Against all the odds I have had a baby (at 44) and I worked diligently not only through my emotions and that of other mothers that suffered losses, but have created a pre-conceptual health programme, and work with commemorating the loss of your tiny innocent and beautiful baby.
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